The Dreaded Renos

We are going to renovate our bathroom and we have to do things a little different then most people. Ideally it would be nice to have a shower and tub but our bathroom is the size of a shoebox so that wont work.  We have looked at financial help through charities to help with a reno, but every contractor we have had wants to either start from new or add a big piece on to our house with a handicap bathroom and bigger bedrooms, which would be great but the charities wont pay for all that, and with really a one income family we dont have the means to do all that. So we will probably do what most families with special needs do, we work with what we have and do it ourselves. Do we take out the bath tub and just go with a shower?? But it needs to be for a family of 4 not just for our son. I want it so my son can be indepentant as possible but my daughter and I love our baths. So hard. The main goal is to get a bidet toilet seat, which we laugh that we will be the only house in our little town to have a bidet. Lol. I'm hoping this will help our son be independent in that area as well, cause he is getting older and who wants their mom to wipe their bum??  So here we are in the home improvement store looking at everything and WOW our budget is small, why does everything have to be so hard and expensive?  We have a handle on the tub now but its getting old, so we need another of those, tile or plastic surround around tub/shower?  I went in the store with high hopes and came out kind of deflated. But we will do what we always do slow and sure it will get done. My goal is by the end of 2017 we will have a solid functioning safe bathroom for the 4 of us. Not all the bells and whistles I would like but what we need.  I do wish it was easier for families with special needs to get what they need and not be such a long hard process, the paper work alone is exhausting, we have to fill out hordes of paperwork every time we have doctors appointments ect let alone to get funding for renos.  So we will try to get some funding for the equipment that he needs in the bathroom, my parents have helped us with some funds and my handy man aka my husband will be the contractor, he has done all of our renos and now he can add bathroom to the list. What I dont understand is, isn't a disability a disability and shouldn't everyone get what they need?? Doesn't seem right. It's so easy for some people to get whatever they need or want but the people that really need it cant. What people dont understand is that it all goes by household income not disability which it seems if you try to make a living, then your out of luck for a helping hand. So many special needs families have issues with getting financial help. So we will do what we always do and we will be prouder for knowing we did it on our own.